Tough love is a term used to express when someone treats you strictly or firmly with the intent to help you in the long run. It is often used when dealing with addictions. People often use tough love to help an addicted loved one go to rehab to get help. What is the hope when your loved one goes to rehab? You hope your love one will stop a behavior that is dangerous, self-destructive or has the potential to ruin their life or even possibly kill them.
Tough love is when a family member, a co-worker, a teacher or some body that truly care about you and your life, how it is going or where you may end up confronts you. They care enough to put their reputation on the line or confront you with the possibility of you disliking them, being angry at them or not listening to them.
Sometimes they even utilize an intervention which is more than one person expressing their concern and tough love for you. But what happens when you are addicted to something that can be harming your life, killing your spirit and destroying your aspirations, yet is not considered an addiction or illegal. It is not considered something that needs intervention yet can damage your life forever if not taken care of. It’s hidden and it’s subtle yet, you use it everyday.
I am going to offer you some tough self-love. I am going to care enough to put my reputation on the line and confront you with the possibility of you disliking me, being angry at me, thinking I am pedantic or worse not listening to me. Just for this moment, I want to be the somebody that does truly care about you and your life, how it is going or where you may end up.
The science of results oriented thinking is tough self-love. It is the understanding that everything in your life is showing up because you created it with your thinking, feelings and actions. One of the most ignored aspects of our human behavior is that we rely on our thinking, feelings and actions everyday, all the time. In fact we trust this aspect so implicitly that we don’t examine it and how it can be harming, self-sabotaging and keeping us away from the life that we want or stop us from being the person we want to be.
You can be addicted to a negative limited way of thinking. You can be addicted to a self-sabotaging way of thinking. You can be addicted to a self-hatred way of thinking. All of these self-defeating forms of thinking can ruin your life forever unless you do something. Unless you go into rehab you will be addicted forever, never feeling your full potential or feeling deep self love. You will forever feel self-loathing if you continue on this road of addicted negative limited thinking. It will kill all of your aspirations and never let you become rich or successful.
So please, in this moment, have some tough self love and learn about the science of results oriented thinking. It’s not to late to turn your life around. I don’t care how old you are. It’s not to late to experience the miraculous feeling of never, ever being plagued by a limiting negative thought. You can do what Wayne Dyer said. “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change.” You can learn what the 6 most deadly yet, widely used thinking and speaking habits are that are plaguing your results. Then learn to never use them again.
It takes you to have tough self-love to turn your life around. Only you can choose to have the self-command necessary to help you create the life of your dreams. Just imagine what your life will be like when you are clean and sober from negative thinking. Just imagine how much deeper your relationships can be. How much more money you can make and how much happier you will be. When you learn the science of results oriented thinking, you will become the most powerful you that you can be. Take the first step and learn more about the science of results oriented thinking and make the journey to self-love. If you feel it, forward this article to someone you love and thank you for letting me share my tough love.
Vickie Jimenez
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